“When something bad happens you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.” ~Unknown
On Relationship Health After Breakups:
I’ve learned that our relationships are only as healthy as we are. You need to be happy and whole before pursuing other people. It’s never okay to use someone as a tool to fill up a void within you. If you do that, you’ll only harm that person.
Recovering from a break-up takes time, love, and patience. Surround yourself with those who love and care for you, unconditionally.
Learn to be happy just being yourself, by yourself. And when you’re ready, begin to date new people. (But only when you’re ready!)
7 Dos and Don’ts for handling a breakup:
1. Don’t let other people be reckless with your heart.
And don’t be reckless with theirs.
2. If you can, try to get closure on your past relationship.
You don’t want to haul that baggage around while you’re dating new people.
3. Never date a person to get over someone else.
It’s okay to have fun, but don’t forget that other people have feelings too.
4. You have to be okay with yourself before you’re okay being with someone else.
If you’re not happy just being single, then consider why that is before trying to get with another person.
5. Don’t display a false image of yourself in an attempt at getting back at someone.
Remember you’re hurt because someone you care for hurt you. It’s hard, but swallow your pride. Sacrificing your morals for revenge is never worth it. You’ll only hurt yourself in the end.
6. Take time to enjoy being single again.
Do things that are authentically you and will make you be happy, without dragging anyone else down.
7. Be patient with yourself, stay busy, laugh a lot, and stick with your friends.
– Extracted from Tiny Buddha (Love this blog to bits💃)
Whatever you do:
Don’t be under the pressure of ignoring the fact that you went through a breakup. We especially tend to do this when we represent the party that initiated the break-up.
A hidden truth remains that the initiators of break-ups, especially due to inexplicably genuine reasons tend to hurt more than the receivers of the breakup.
Whatever side of the coin you might be on, take the good from the break-up, heal fully, fall in love with yourself afresh and more before moving on.
No matter how complicated…let it strengthen you😃